Sex and The City.....ehhhhh, not so much
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It got me thinking about how a social life with Parkinson's would work. And by social life, I mean dating. And by dating, I mean sex.
Let's go back to June 2012, my 60th birthday. I was having dinner with my daughter, Kimi. I told her one of my bucket list items was to have one more really good relationship.
At that time, I was just out of a relationship so it went slowly. A few dates, nothing close to anything serious.
By the fall, I was already having symptoms and spent a lot of time dealing with doctors. The winter and spring was about getting comfortable with what was happening to me.
It brings us to summer. Ah yes, beautiful summer. Warm weather, cookouts, picnics, baseball, outdoor music and women without winter clothing.
I met a woman on an internet dating site. We exchanged a bunch of emails...all of them witty. We decided to meet for coffee. We're at the coffee shop. She's very attractive. The conversation is flowing. I go to the counter to get the drinks. Hers is this huge Chai Tea Latte. Big cup and saucer. I bring it back to the table but my hands are shaking and I came close to dropping it. She's giving me a WTF look.
I explain about the Parkinson's and she's understanding. We go for a walk along the lakefront. We exchange numbers. It's a nice start.
A couple of days later, I ask her if she wants to get together again. She said she had a good time but thinks we'd be better as friends. I asked her if benefits were involved. She said maybe. WE AREN'T FRIENDS!!
So it's on to woman #2. Same web site. Same scenario. Different location.
I again go to the counter to get our drinks. Good news, they're in paper cups. Bad news, I get near our table and I lose my balance. Worse news, the lids on the cups open and the drinks are spilling. Worst news, they land on my date and on her white pants. OY!!!
You don't have to be Columbo to know this date is over. She did take it well, especially after I explained my physical issue.
It looks like we're back to square one. I'm still on that dating site but taking it slow. I'm open to alternatives.
The Parkinson's Moving Day walk is coming up in October. http://www.parkinson.org/Community/Events/Chicago,-IL--Moving-Day-(1) Maybe I can bump into someone who can relate to this situation. Sounds a little sleazy but it's for a good cause or two.
The search continues, sort of. Like me, it's just moving slowly.