What If You Find Out You're Undateable?
I have come to realize that having someone around might not be so easy.
A wise friend told me that a couple of weeks ago while we were talking about relationships.
I really don't believe the title. No one is undateable. After all there are billions of people in the world. The odds are really in your favor to find Mr. or Ms. Right...or even Ms. Right Now.
So why is that one so elusive?
If you think I have the answer, well the you don't know me at all. No clue here! And I'm not the only one.
Look how many dating sites are out there....PlentyofFish, OKCupid, Match, JDate, OurTime, It's Just Lunch and so many more.
Managing a dating site is like having a full time job. Searching, email, another email, phone calls, texts...all before you even meet. It's a lot of work...and this isn't suppose to be work, is it?
Yesterday I received an email from a 30 year old woman living in the Philippines. Why?
I'm more than twice her age and live thousands of miles away. Really?
I've had the same scenario from women in Viet Nam and France. I could be offered the greatest sex of my life and I'm not going to Ho Chi Minh City. Okay, okay...maybe...we'll see.
Someone told me to skip the dating sites. You have lots of friends that are women. Ask them out. It's true..I do. I want to keep them as friends.
But it makes sense. There's a reason you're friends. You have commonalities. It's a good idea...until it's not.
Chances are it's going to go wrong....and why shouldn't it. It's two people in their 50's-60's that haven't had a lot of success in relationships. Just do the math!!
The only question is does the friendship survive?
So what then....
Maybe a mutual friend can set you up? Sounds good but....always a but.
This is almost like a dating service except your involving a third party. When it goes bad, then what? Does the friendship with the matchmaker survive?
When I was in college, my dad and his business partner tried to set me up with the daughter of one of their business friends. It was more than just try. We hung out off and on for a long time.
The problem wasn't us but the Dads. Neither of them liked what was going on between the kids. I don't blame them. As a 60 year old father, I wouldn't like it either. As a 20 year old boy, I was all for it.
The matchmaking fathers had a falling out and stopped doing business together. Be careful what you ask for even as the person who does the setting up. You may become collateral damage. Sorry Dad...well sorta.
So what's the answer to this age old dilemma? Shrugging Shoulders!
Hey look at this...it's JDate! No! NO! NO! Stop me now! Please!
Phew...that was close.
I think I'm going down to the bar for a drink. Hmmmm....meeting a woman in a bar....sounds kind of old school.
If you liked this piece you might like this one, too. Sex On The First Date. Oh man...after this no one will ever go out with me!
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